Talking to Strangers:
What We Should Know About the People We Don't Know
by Malcolm Gladwell
A review
After reading several fiction books in the past
weeks, I was itching to read some non-fiction.
The opportunity to get my fix came in the shape of Malcolm Gladwell’s most
recent book: Talking to Strangers – What We Should Know about the People We
Don’t Know.
I have read and enjoyed other works by Gladwell
and his latest offering follows what has now become a familiar structure in his
books. In the opening chapter, he starts
with a case study which introduces the issue which will be addressed in the
book. He then proceeds to divide it into
smaller components, illustrating each of them with anecdotes or reference to experiments
by social scientists. At the end of the
book, Gladwell revisits the introductory case study, applying the insights
obtained during the course of the previous chapters.
In Talking to Strangers the key case
study is the notorious stand-off between African-American civilian Sandra Bland
and police officer Brian Encina. On the pretext of a traffic violation, Bland
was pulled over by Encina. What started as a fairly normal random check led to
the arrest of an innocent woman and her subsequent suicide in a jail cell. Gladwell interprets this as an example of a
gross misunderstanding, a failure on the part of Encina to correctly digest
verbal and non-verbal communication. And, whilst not exonerating Encina, he
considers this as a wider failure on the part of society to equip us with the
necessary tools to understand “strangers”.
Gladwell then gives other examples – such as Neville Chamberlain’s belief
(shared by seasoned diplomats in his retinue) that Hitler would honour an
agreement not to go to war, or the CIA’s failure to identify key double-agents
in their midst. What is
it, therefore that makes us prone to being fooled by strangers?
To answer this question, Gladwell relies
heavily on the theories of psychologist Tim Levine. He argues that the first problem we face is
what he calls “default to truth”. In other words, we are “wired” to accept the
truth of what others are telling us, unless there are so many indications to
the contrary that we cannot easily “explain them away”. This obviously puts us at a greater risk of
being fooled now and then. However, the
alternative to this approach would be to become paranoid, suspecting everything
and everybody.
The second problem is related to
“transparency”. We tend to rely on
“visual” communication as much as on “non-visual” communication. Facial
expressions, in particular, are often considered a fool proof method of
understanding what others are really feeling. It turns out however that with
certain people this just doesn’t work, and their facial expressions do not
necessarily reflect their real thoughts. In particular, culture affects visual
cues, compounding the transparency problem.
Intrinsically tied to this is the “mismatch” issue. Basically, this means that whilst even
reading the expressions of “transparent” people can be challenging at times,
our performance is abysmal when expressions and thoughts are mismatched.
The final challenge in “talking to strangers”
relates to the “coupling” phenomenon.
Gladwell observes that we tend to underestimate the effects of “context”
(geographical or circumstantial) on individuals, which leads us to wrongly
predict how an individual would react or behave in specific circumstances.
Gladwell’s solution to these problems is, to my
mind, quite generic. He emphasizes that
we need to be aware of the tendency to “default to truth” and not penalize each
other for it. He also advocates for greater humility and respect in our
dealings with strangers, giving ourselves the time to understand not just the
individual facing us, but also the “context”.
There’s no denying Gladwell’s readability – I
gobbled up this book in two longish sittings over a weekend. His arguments move forward with a clear logic
and are illustrated by compelling examples.
He provides many startling insights and at his best, can effectively
change one’s perceptions and prejudices.
Yet, at the end, just as with other books of his, I felt rather like the
audience at a magician’s show, convinced that there must be a “trick”
somewhere. His conclusions are certainly persuasive – but can we be sure that
he has not been selective in the anecdotes he shares with us? Can the social
experiments he refers to be relied upon?
The dangers of relying blindly on the examples
Gladwell mentions are illustrated, ironically, by the author himself. The
interpretation of facial expressions was a key point in an earlier book of his
– Blink – some of whose material overlaps with this. In Blink, following the findings of
Paul Ekman, Gladwell advocated for a “universalist” interpretation of facial
expressions. In Talking to Strangers
he admits to changing his views on Ekman, in the light of more recent
studies. There is, of course, nothing
wrong with changing or developing one’s opinion – on the contrary, Gladwell
should be commended for his intellectual honesty in making this clear. However,
it also serves as a salutary lesson in not taking all Gladwell’s arguments as
self-evident.
This “margin of error” (for want of a better
term) is particularly delicate in the present book, since the examples Gladwell
refers to are, to say the least, controversial. He contends, for instance, that
in the Jerry Sandusky and Larry Nassar abuse scandals, the failure of
authorities to take prompt action was not necessarily fuelled by some nefarious
cover-up attempt, but might have been the result of a natural “default to
truth”. Similarly, in discussing the Brock Turner rape case, whilst, on the one
hand, condemning the perpetrator, he mentions the alcohol factor as an element
which complicated the correct understanding of “consent” – effectively
portraying the incident is a particularly grievous and damaging
‘misunderstanding’. Gladwell retains a
respectful and balanced voice, but this is incendiary stuff. I’m quite sure that victims of abuse will not
be easily convinced by these “default to truth” arguments, however compellingly
put.
Whether one agrees or not with his overarching
theories or their particular components, however, Gladwell comes across as an
intelligent interlocutor whose observations are thought-provoking and valuable.
Kindle Edition, 379 pages
Published September 10th 2019 by Penguin
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